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Re: Read it and Weep Julia Oh!!!!! (Score: 1)
by SugarShark on Saturday, April 17 @ 01:21:30 EDT
(User Info | Send a Message) | nobody likes that invisible barrier
I wonder if there is a different word for the creation of this invisible barrier. hmm
I don't think you needed to title your experience as "Read it and weep Julia Oh"
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Re: Read it and Weep Julia Oh!!!!! (Score: 1)
by Abct on Sunday, April 18 @ 02:43:52 EDT
(User Info | Send a Message) | | You want to elevate your social status, don't you? |
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Knowing Julia Oh, she would actually be laughing at you, here's why (Score: 1)
by poisenedrice on Sunday, April 18 @ 10:28:36 EDT
(User Info | Send a Message) | It's kind of humorous that you posted this article (which has beend discussed in the forums before), in order to discredit Julia Oh, but it really only supports what she said about AFs with self-hate issues.
In the beginning of the article, she states that she doesn't view going out with white guys in terms of status, but then she gives a Freudian slip and says:
I've never had an Asian boyfriend. In high school, I consciously had my crushes only on Australian boys purely so that I would be the same as my friends who were all Australians.
She claims AFs who date white guys aren't in it for the status, but then she claims she had crushes only on Australian (ie white) guys in order to fit in with her friends. Isn't being accepted amongst your peers a part of status?
Afterwards, she talks about how she was finally able to meet Asian men in college, but then states:
Now when I think about it, I still can't understand why I couldn't even become friends with those guys. It was like there was an invisible barrier between us that allowed me to know their names and faces, but not their minds and hearts. I wonder if I would've known if they had been interested in me, because I can't say myself if I liked or disliked them. Perhaps there was a cultural gap since all the boys were much more traditional than I am.
Now this is very telling. I find it laughable that every Asian guy she met ended up becoming nothing more than an acquantance. It's almost as if she consciously filtered out every Asian guy she met from ever becoming more than a minor acquantance.
But then this admission is really telling:
Five years ago, I met someone. I was celebrating the completion of my degree and an Asian acquaintance brought him along. I didn't notice what race he was. I didn't consider his potential for elevating my social status. I didn't think of interracial relationships. I didn't think anything except that I felt really happy being with him.
If she doesn't see race, then how come she herself admitted that she:
-only had crushes on Australian (ie white) guys when she was younger
-Every Asian guy she met never became anything more than an acquantance - not even a platonic friend
-After meeting numerous AMs, the one guy she felt "really happy being with" was a white guy
Just basing on what she herself said, it's safe to reason that the author of this article is a liar because she does see race, and a hypocrite for claiming she doesn't associate dating a white guy with social standing. She is the worst type of AF activist out there: the type who has no problems fighting against racism and lashing out against the evils of whitey, but at the end of the day, dates/marries the first one who pays any attention to her because she would rather fight racism from her perchy loft but god forbid she be branded a trouble-maker by the white majority.
AF activists like this girl only prove that the stereotype of Asians being smart is a blatant exaggeration. We sure have a lot of dumbasses. |
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Re: Read it and Weep Julia Oh!!!!! (Score: 1)
by Spirit on Monday, April 19 @ 13:40:50 EDT
(User Info | Send a Message) | You know something? You're just another lying HYPOCRITE. "I'm an AF who doesn't see race but I still wind up with a white guy." Give me a break! How many of us have heard this BS before?! You're the kind who would stand in at a rally "screaming" your lungs out about some racist action but keeping an eye open to the crowd for that blue-eyed white boy who happens to show up as an "enlightened" activist too. When it gets down to it sell-out self-hating wenches like yourself bring everybody down. Want to know why people are so critical of AFs these days? Because too many of them try to downplay the dangers of what they're doing.
Race does matter. None of us can ever escape it and sell-outs like you have already chosen to get it on with the promoters and authors of the constant and ongoing acts of injustice that take away from the quality of life and make this country less than what it could be. And then you benefit from the gains of the Civil Rights Movement which for most of you sell-outs is the opportunity to freely date WMs. You're a waste of time. |
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Re: Read it and Weep Julia Oh!!!!! (Score: 1)
by ReBirth on Friday, April 23 @ 16:07:54 EDT
(User Info | Send a Message) | Well I just want to say that people just coming out and calling you a "sell out" is a little harsh eh?
Truth be told, who can claim that their relationships are perfect in the first place to even pass judgement on another person.
How about an asian female who sleeps with a ton of asian guys because she has no self worth? Is she any better? Just because she was with a ton of asian guys, does that make her an asian advocate?
Or the asian guy who sleeps with a ton of gals for he lacks worth and hates self? Is he now a hero?
Who are we to go and say that this relationship is an abomination that should not exist? I feel she's being very sincere in this, and she is attacked? What is to be gained by assaulting her with such "ideals." ?
Many of us have been in relationships as a result of just wanting to fit in, or because of insecurity, lack of self worth, or whatever. It seems a lot of relationships occur as a result of insecurities. Does the race of the person we make this mistake with change anything about our own present shortcomings?
Understanding does not happen in ways of attacks and insults, but rather through an attempt to grasp people's and your own motivations and difficulties.
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